Monday, 18 June 2018

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Mummy Mafia

How to get in with the Mummy Mafia or find a mummy friend.

The long and the short of it is when your child starts school - you will be transported back in time to your own school days.

And yes just because we all grew up and are adults (sort of) people will still revert back to their old selves ... the shy don't magically become extroverts the bullies don't magically become nice....

So my advice forgets the nasties and find someone in your class of 30 mum's or nannies that you connect with and have a coffee... organise a coffee morning using WhatsApp get people together and become a connector and connect ....

Not everyone will be your cup of tea and hey guess what neither will you.

Struggling to get your class to do social things or coffee mornings - Join the PTA - these are the people that do have a bit of time and would like to connect... you don't need to isolate yourself to your own class!

Be an organiser
As a successful socializer - often having too many invites in one week that I have to turn them down - I would say be an organiser - be the one that people go to and that everyone knows by name as the person who is arraning it all - when people have a good time and find meaningfull connections they bond and beocme very appreciative of who ever orgised - but share the work load - find a like minded person (see how I'm donig this - a like minded mummy who might become a friend through doing things ) to help you organise things... Do the following with your class

Set up a whats app group
Get all the parents or just the mum's on there - its useful to for parties or when Johnny has lost his jumper or to remind everyone of swimming or homework... its a great mini community in a school and normally everyone joins it...

Keep your WhatsApp clean
no unnecessary comments and communication or advertising as this becomes annoying.

Nights out and coffee mornings
once a term set up a coffee morning - change the days as not everyone can do a Wednesday or Friday
and set up a night out at the local pub or comedy night

Camping Trips
set a class camping trip - nothing  bonds people more than 2 sleepless nights .... lol the struggle
(pick a campsite that is kid friendly and you won't worry about your child disappearing or being eaten by beasts)

Drop off 
Do drop off and pick up! If you can - seeing people at the school gates is a massive mummy mafia bonding moment. Especially after an event like a night out or camping trip - sharing your war stories of washing stinky clothes and how lovely and soft your bed was that night - or how hungover you are - does actually really bond and give you something to talk about.

Main social rules when trying to penetrate the very converted  Mummy Mafia is

1 - create your own Mafia tribe - forget about those that you can crack! Look at who is around you and who is asking you to coffee - spend time with them... forget about the "cool kids" - believe me their husbands are probably cheating on them or slapping them around or they are secretly miserable - regardless what their social media says... Forget them move on - create your own tribe !

2- Don't gossip - unless about the nasty mum's obviously - but never ever slag off anyone in your own tribe! Mum's are natoriaously suspicious and if you are seen being buddy-buddy with someone in your group then slag her off behind her back - mum's wonder - is she doing that to me? (note on gossip - we all do it I know - be careful that person you are gossiping to is not besties with that person - always gage

3 - smile - be nice - everyone likes a happy positive person - someone that is always moaning and groaning is not fun to be around -  sucks the life out of others.

4 - Share - share your vulnerability with people - it makes you human - but not every day - let people see your struggles they will want to help you but you cant have a problem every time you see them

5- Balance - make sure you give back - taking and giving is very important - make sure your relationships are balanced - you are not always giving they are not always taking and visa versa - if you have done loads for others let them do things for you - give them the space to do so! Let others organise things - maybe make a suggestion to get the ball rolling... 

Thursday, 11 July 2013

Dangerous Cheetah encounters

Dangerous Cheetah encounters

In March of this year I had an amazing weekend at a beautiful farm out side Johannesburg called The Ann Van Dyk Cheetah Centre. Link here --> Dewildt Cheetah's . They have just been awarded a Certificate of Excellence by Trip Advisor. So worth a visit - especially as a family trip ... 
I was invited to view and photograph the Cheetah's in their enclosure with their owners... Anna and Roy. (2 Amazing people) Anna and Roy are helping Ann Van Dyk carry on her amazing work in conserving these endangered, beautifully dangerous, creatures.
To warm me up I started shooting the 1 year old cheetah's. These guys were playful and smallish. There are some images below of me with the little ones. There are no images of me with the big cheetahs as everyone else was busy holding the big cats back from using me as play thing. The first image in this blog is of Roy holding back a cheetah - locked in on me ready to pull me down (obviously - me the ever dedicated photographer couldn't leave without the perfect shot - hence the final shots in this blog are of my leg after one got hold of me .
The older ones were tame to a degree, but make no mistake these are wild animals and not house hold kitty cats, as I soon found out when something switched in them and I became pray … But only one photographer was injured slightly in the making of this blog but no cheetah's where harmed … Enjoy the images and when in town visit the Dewildt Cheetah Project
FYI - They offer a brilliant gap year program. You get to work with the cheetah's - programs run all year long - from one month to 1 year programs. If you are interest in this program please contact me for further information and details  

For more images go to cheetah images

Monday, 5 November 2012

Top tips to prepare your child to be photographed

Top tips to prepare your child to be photographed
 I thought I'd share some advice on preparing your child for a photographic shoot or just home photo's ingeneral 

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Try letting them choose their outfit (give them a few options to choose from - not the whole wardrobe)
Try to dress them in simple colours – not to many colours that deter your attention away from the child. Boys always look good in colour that closely resemble their eye colours. Try not to dress them in anything that has a lot of big writing on the front. Girls obviously always look great in pinks and yellows and bright blues…
Wash their hair the night before 
Girls look lovely with over sized clips, flowers or hairbands in their hair - colours that match their outfit are best
Bring a few accessories for both girls and boys anything you think would look good in a picture, girls especially love accessories – boys love their ride on’s – bring it along even if it doesn’t get used.  
Stand behind the photographer - To help the photographer - we are trying to get the child to look into the camera for best results 
Try arranging your shoot early in the day - they are in their best moods then and are more inclined to pose and do things for the camera 
Make sure their tummies are full and they are well rested – grumpy, hungry children do not photograph that well!
Things to bring along to a photo shoot: 
  • As few people as possible, preferably one parent/carer to one child (this eliminates distractions and can help when a shy or spirited child needs a bit more encouragement to sit or stand for a portrait)
  •  A entire outfit change - as accidents happen and we want everything too look good and match 
  • WIPES (lots of them)
  • A favourite toy or comforter (this helps easy the child in a new environment or unfamiliar environment)
  • For girls - hair brushes, clips, hairbands 
  • Snacks (dry snacks) biscuits, apples raisons - snacks that wont spill or stain. 
  • Water to drink (not juice as juice can cause stains and hype the little ones up)
When in doubt contact the photographer and ask their opinion. 

From Grumpy child photography                           To happy child photography
Grumpy child photography
Happy child photography tips

How to sparkle by made in chelsea stars ...

I do love Made in Chelsea 
...even if its made in cheese...

A few words from the fabulously wealthy !

Here we select 10 of Boulle's most precious gems:
* "Agree a price up front and get it in writing. My mother got my first ever invoice after I'd fixed the video recorder when I was nine. But we hadn't agreed a price beforehand. She fleeced me on the deal, claiming that my payment was continued food, shelter and lifts to school. A tough, but necessary, life lesson."
* "Networking isn't a nine-to-five activity, it's a way of life. I never stop networking, whether I'm working out, having a picnic or playing polo …. Be discreet. Best not to approach anyone at funerals or AA meetings. Generally, it's bad form to network in places of worship, with the exception of banks."
* "Tweet enough, but not too much. Anything more than once an hour makes you look like a twaddict."
* "The holy trinity of money management: spend a third, save a third, invest a third. This concept was illustrated by my mother when she gave me my first allowance, at five, and subsequently took two-thirds back: one third for my piggy bank and one third to invest in my burgeoning stamp collection.
Cheers, Mumsy."
* "Remember to feed and water your staff, and reward them with day trips to the zoo."
* "Always have an exit strategy in business, but keep it legal. Best to exit without handcuffs."
* "Surround yourself with success and intelligence – both are infectious."
* "Approach the early stages of relationships as a classic military campaign. Reading The Art of War is much more useful than Cosmo at the beginning. Getting yourself into the power position is critical – the same as claiming the hill in a battle."
* "Try to befriend people called Stephen, or any derivative of the name. They seem more successful than the rest of the population."
* "Throw as many parties as you can afford. It positions you at the centre of your ever-expanding network. Everyone needs a Gatsby in their life."

Tuesday, 23 October 2012

Love photographica takes off

Love photographica takes off

I recently did my first school shoot and absolutely LOVED IT and the KIDS!
Best move of my life 
I love capturing the feelings and expression and personality of the little kiddy winks.

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